Addictive relationship patterns or love addiction might include returning to an affair with a married man over and over again, despite repeatedly falling out with that husband, or recurring disappointment when yet another promise to leave his wife has been broken. It could mean repeated flings, or a series of ultimately hurtful or unsatisfactory relationships that never really had any hope of being hale long term ones.
By calling our counselling team on 0203 326 9160 We will recommend one of our psychotherapy team who specialise in addictive relationship issues and love addiction.
Help starts with an initial meeting, in which you will chat with one of our counsellors. If you decide that you are comfortable with your counsellor and that you can speak with them easily, you will start to work with them on your plan for recovery.
Calls to us are completely confidential.
All addictive patterns are theorized to be related to core low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. The addiction – be it alcohol or shopping or an unhealthy relationship – is mood altering – it cheers you up for a while and helps you forget the deep underlying sense of dissatisfaction at the core of your life.
Unhealthy relationships arise out of a lack of proper trust. This can also mean you don't trust yourself to find the right person in the longer term. The reliability of whatever relationship pattern you are addicted to is that it unfailingly fills the emotional hole gnawing away at you in the short term. That person will see you and have sex, or reassure you of your desirability. To begin with, that rush fills the need or void. Unfortunately because the deeper underlying issues are not being addressed, gradually dissatisfaction mounts and a row or some other problem will appear to intervene by 'accident' when in fact the deterioration was more inevitable.
The despair and pain you feel when abandoned, as the relationship cycle reaches the end with break up or break down can only be fixed by a return to the beginning of the cycle and starting an unhealthy relationship sequence yet again.
Addictive relationship patterns are now well recognized by therapists. Support can be vital through the painful period where you might experience more distress than ever before, as you go without the crutch of the repeated pattern that in the short run appeared to give you a rush, but in the longer run was leading nowhere. This is a kind of metaphorical 'cold turkey' which are a feature of recovery from all addictions. Any ex-addict will relate, however, that pushing through these barriers to change was in the long run worth it.
Clinical Partners have a team of Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Psychotherapists and Counsellors who are experienced in this area and will be able to offer full support and advice for you and your family.
We also can support you if you feel that you are suffering from related depression or other addictions including alcohol, drugs and sex.
By calling our Admissions Counsellor on 0203 326 9160 you will be able to talk in confidence about your situation and we can recommend a specialist to assist you.