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When stealing and lying become a regular occurrence, or when these behaviours are accompanied by other worrying signs, it may be time to seek the advice of an expert in child behaviour. We can help.
The ability to successfully tell a lie is one ability that sets humans apart from other animals. The average adult admits to telling a lie 13 times a week, and lying is considered by many experts to be an important milestone in a child’s emotional development.
The process of lying is complex and involves a child understanding they are a separate entity to their parents – this ability normally happens at around the age of 2 or 3.
Whilst young children may lie because they are not able to separate fantasy from truth, by the age of 6 most children understand the moral implications of lying.
Persistent lying can be a sign that:
Whilst many lies can be small and insignificant, if your child frequently lies or the lies are getting them or other people into trouble, it could be a sign there is an underlying problem that would benefit from some expert input.
If lying is accompanied by any of the following, you may want to speak to an expert:
Finding out your child or teenager is stealing can be deeply concerning – parents are understandably worried about not only the impact on the other party but may also feel guilt or shame about their role as parents.
If your child or teenager is stealing, it can be a sign of emotional problems that may benefit from expert help.
What causes a child to steal?
If stealing is accompanied by any of the following, you may want to speak to an expert:
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Some stealing or lying behaviour is part and parcel of growing up – we have all made mistakes in our adolescence and they are how we learn about the world.
Lying can be a way of testing out boundaries, a key developmental need for adolescents. Others may lie or steal as a way of managing difficult emotions. Our arousal states are increased by the process of lying and stealing, and these behaviours can make a child feel more powerful, in control and even give them a bit of a ‘high’.
One of the first steps that many parents find helpful is for their child or teenager to meet with a child and adolescent psychiatrist to assess if there are any underlying reasons behind the stealing and lying behaviour.
Research shows that children who lie and steal may have an underlying condition, such as a conduct disorder, ODD or an emerging personality disorder, all of which can be helped by therapy and in some cases, medication.
Working with a psychologist or psychotherapist can help your child manage their emotions in a healthier way and teach them lifelong skills. For some children, medication can be effective in helping address underlying issues that may be causing the behaviour.